If you have been with me from the beginning of my journey, you will remember my first ever post. Click here if you need a refresher and don’t judge (it was my first time blogging). Today marks 6 years since I left my home and embarked on a new journey in the UK.
Where has the time gone?? Honestly, I cannot believe how I am 6 years down the line. How things have changed and how I have grown is amazing to look back on. It wasn’t the first time I had moved to a new country, but this was across on the other side of the world. I had to experience a culture shock of note. We are a different bread of human over there.
When I moved to the UK, I was a fresh early 20s girl with possibly a bit too much spunk and fear all coursing through my veins. The last time I came to the UK, I was 9 years old and it was different place back then. There I was, 23 years old and entering a massive change. Now I’m 29 and seen a bit more of life and learnt some lessons. Here are just a few.
Things I have learnt over the 6 years
To be honest, the list is so long I couldn’t begin to start listing everything. I’ll give the biggest lessons I have learnt.
- No one can make you happy, you have to make yourself happy – This one seems obvious but I had to learn it the hard way. When I got to the UK I was painfully unhappy and didn’t look for a way to change that. I wallowed in the misery. Now I look for things in everyday that can make me smile, be small things or big. Happiness is a choice and I have learnt to choose it everyday.
- Learn to enjoy your own company – I used to hate being alone. Someone always had to be around, even if I was in another room from them, I didn’t like not having someone around. Nowadays, I can honestly say I don’t mind it so much. In fact, it means I can get some blogging done. Being comfortable with your own company is really healthy and can help your relationships as well because you won’t need to be around others all the time. That can be quite exhausting for them.
- The grass is never greener somewhere else – Despite the UK being far more stable than Zimbabwe and has far less economic, political and industrial issues, it isn’t perfect. One thing (and potentially one of the only things) I miss about home is the beautiful weather. Yes I have lived in the UK for 6 years now so I can talk about the weather. Let’s be real for a second… UK weather absolutely SUCKS!!! I grew up with 300+ days of sunshine a year and the mildest climate in the world. Not a fan of the cold of wet… We give up one nicety, the weather, for another, economic and political stability. Now I saver the days where the sun does pop it’s head through the clouds.
- Don’t compromise yourself to fit in – I have always been a different kind of person, even back home. But it was never quite so prominent until I moved over here. I was foreign and different. What a combination. I tried to change things about myself to fit in and it just left me miserable and exhausted from all the play acting. About a year ago I decided NO I am who I am and I like who I am. This doesn’t mean we don’t compromise on things but don’t compromise who you are at the core to fit in and be accepted by other people. If they don’t accept you as you are they aren’t worth your time. Remember, you are amazing exactly how you are!!!
I could go on and on, but I will leave you with those 4 life lessons I learnt living on my own in the UK for the last 6 years.
I would love to hear what you think of these and if you have had to learn some tough life lessons after making a big change in your life.
Now I think it is time to celebrate🥂🍾
Until next time…